Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Down the Pub

Bars, pubs, lounges. American culture seems to indicate that these are the modern & secular watering holes where singles are supposed to gather and mingle.

This is something I've never really understood.

NYC bars are characteristically loud and obnoxious. Even when I did drink (I'm off the sauce now, that's a story for another post), I was usually frustrated when trying to talk to people in bars. The music is on too loud, so people must shout to be heard, which means *everyone* is shouting.

And it's one thing to be there with a friend or a posse, but are people really meant to hook up with strangers in bars? Strangers that you can't hear? I'm definitely nerdy for being hung up on the chat bit, but it all seems odd to me.

What is the attraction of hanging out in a loud bar on a weekend nite? Are bars different outside of NYC? What other places are there for a single person to go and meet other single people (for friendship or more)?

<3 Your Confused Spinster

Goal post

My friend on Debt Free Saver tagged me to post some goals, so I'm going to whack two birds with one stone and make some blog goals.

Publish one "matter" post per week. This includes reflections and stockpiles of information on ... whatever topic seems relevant that week.

Publish one communal post per week. There's no limit on commenting on this blog, but it's fun when the blogger asks a question and sees what readers have to say or suggest.

Goal posts (*giggles*) don't count under either heading, so expect two more posts this week ;-)

Friday, October 3, 2008

Guess what, ladies?

I've been looking over the traditions and habits of the Western world-view, and have come to a startling conclusion.

Women don't need to get married.

There are always exceptions based on personal needs, desires, philosophies, and spiritual beliefs. However, the rules and standards for women have changed drastically in the last century.

The basic necessities of life in the U.S. are food, shelter, medicine, and love. But we no longer need husbands and/or children to get them ourselves. Women can now own property, hold their own jobs, develop their own careers, and there is way more kinds of love in this world than romance and marriage.

If you want to step to the left wing, women don't need to get married to get into bed with someone. They don't even need to be married to have children. And while the jury is still out on marriage rights in many states, there are those who practice marrying whomever they choose, however many times they want.

With a step to the right wing, celibacy no longer needs to be confined to a nunnery, and can be as healthy a lifestyle choice as any other, despite what the media tells us about how sex sells. And I don't think it's a sin in any religion to save yourself for the right person, and then hope to settle down and have a family with them.

So what is this blog about?

It's about making personal choices that suit *our* needs and desires, not those that tradition or the media press onto us.

Obviously, I'm going to focus more on the side of being a single liberal female living in the U.S. (specifically NYC), because that's my point of reference. How does a person in my situation live on a single income? Go out carousing? Develop their education and career? Purchase property?

Lets find out together, shall we?

PS, I have a few mini essays that I'm working on at the moment, but feel free to ask more questions and make requests in the comments. If it's within my power (and i I have the stomach for it) I will write it ;-)